Last night I spoke to a friend that I was once extremely close to for many years but sadly we went our seperate ways and I haven't seen or heard from her in around 7 years.
It was great to catch up after so long and the conversation just fell into that mode where even though you haven't seen someone or spoken to them for so long..it feels like you only spoke to them a week ago. I guess thats a true friendship.
Funnily enough though, while she was chatting to me about her family and what had been happening in her life I realised that as much as I whinge and whine about my family (brothers), everyone else has their own family stories to tell and unfortunately for my friend she has had her fair share of them also.
She has just turned 39 and still isn't married or has no children and I recall she was always quite bitter that she had no kids but last night she said to me quite simply that 'She wasn't chosen to be a mother'.
What a beautiful way to put it. She has gotten on with her life and obviously accepted the fact that she probably won't have kids. What an awful thing to have to do.
It really made me sit back and think about my kids and what my life would be like without them and I can tell you..they weren't nice thoughts at all.
She has a partner of 3 and a half years but even that I found sad. Most of my friends, including me, have been with their partners now for many years.
We may not be the wealthiest family around but at least we have each other which is more than I can say for my friend. She is also in a situation where she has no contact with her nieces and nephews either..only her mother and step-father. Very sad.
It just goes to show that we should count our blessings every day.
I know when I say my prayers at night I thank God for everything he has given me..and everything he hasn't. There are many things in this world that I don't have and many things that I don't want to have.
At least I have my family.